THE 30/30/30 RULE
For every creative thing you do: 1/3 will love you, 1/3 will hate you, and 1/3 won’t care.
Fear creates anger, frustration, feelings of inadequacy and lack of accomplishment. Which manifests as self-anger. Which can be manifested as self-hatred. Which is difficult to own, so is taken out on others.
Altucher, J. (2014, March). The Ultimate Cheat Sheet for Dealing With Haters. Retrieved from http://www.jamesaltucher.com/2014/03/the-ultimate-cheat-sheet-for-dealing-with-haters/
Sell it Back to Them
The business model of the air travel industry is to strip passengers of comfort and convenience, and then sell it back to them. You will find the comfort you seek at a price, at the airlines’ membership lounges.
Holbrook, C. (2016, April 6). Airports, Designed for Everyone but the Passenger. Retrieved from https://www.nytimes.com/2016/04/10/travel/airport-architecture.html?contentCollection=weekendreads&action=click&pgtype=Homepage&clickSource=story-heading&module=c-column-middle-span-region®ion=c-column-middle-span-region&WT.nav=c-column-middle-span-region&_r=0
I practice part time in rural TN and can attest to this article. An entire generation of uneducated white people is self-destructing in an orgy of narcotics, alcohol, and illicit drugs. They are all politically conservative and never miss an opportunity to denigrate the federal government. The immense hypocrisy that most of them are on Medicare disability for their addictions and self-induced illnesses is completely beneath their awareness. They rail against immigrants who come to America to work in their place because they can’t be bothered by manual labor. The academicians can analyze this phenomenon and ascribe many societal factors, but at the end of the day, it comes down to personal responsibility and hard work. I have way more sympathy for inner city African-Americans who at least can complain of a legacy of discrimination.
FL Doc (2016, April 10 6:48 PM CDT). Re: A new divide in American death [Reader Comment]. Retrieved from http://www.washingtonpost.com/sf/national/2016/04/10/a-new-divide-in-american-death/
These rural folks with their wrong-headed attitudes are indeed a sadness to behold; proud of their ignorance, shunning education, science, healthcare and clinging to a deadly stubborn pride.
809212876 (2016, April 10 2:03 PM CDT). Re: A new divide in American death [Reader Comment]. Retrieved from http://www.washingtonpost.com/sf/national/2016/04/10/a-new-divide-in-american-death/
Illusions Fell Through
Most of the folks this effects were generally low intelligence voters anyway, easily swayed by right-wing religion into believing that if they’d just support the godly Republicans in their fight against the evil gay loving abortion promoting godless heathen Democrats, and give all your money to Oral Roberts or Benny Hinn or Cephelo Dollar, that God would just take care of you. When all of those illusions fell through, and these folks were left rotting in poverty, they then had to resort to welfare, food stamps, Medicaid, and food banks…..all things they’ve despised as being the life of those worthless welfare black people of the inner city.
Reader Response (2016, April 10). Re: A new divide in American death [Reader Comment]. Retrieved from http://www.washingtonpost.com/sf/national/2016/04/10/a-new-divide-in-american-death/
Your Authentic Voice is also someone the mammoth tends to ignore entirely. A strong opinion from a confident person in the outside world? The mammoth is all ears. But a passionate plea from your AV is largely dismissed until someone else validates it.
But in today’s large, complex world of varying cultures and personalities and opportunities and options, losing touch with your AV is dangerous. When you don’t know who you are, the only decision-making mechanism you’re left with is the crude and outdated needs and emotions of your mammoth. When it comes to the most personal questions, instead of digging deep into the foggy center of what you really believe in to find clarity, you’ll look to others for the answers. Who you are becomes some blend of the strongest opinions around you.
Losing touch with your AV also makes you fragile, because when your identity is built on the approval of others, being criticized or rejected by others really hurts. A bad break-up is painful for everyone, but it stings in a much deeper place for a mammoth-run person than for a person with a strong AV.
AVs lead. Mammoths follow.
Leadership is natural for most AVs, because they draw their thoughts and opinions from an original place, which gives them an original angle. And if they’re smart and innovative enough, they can change things in the world and invent things that disrupt the status quo. If you give someone a paintbrush and an empty canvas, they might not paint something good—but they’ll change the canvas in one way or another.
Mammoths, on the other hand, follow—by definition. That’s what they were built to do—blend in and follow the leader. The last thing a mammoth is going to do is change the status quo because it’s trying so hard to be the status quo. When you give someone a paintbrush and canvas, but the paint is the same exact color as the canvas, they can paint all they want, but they won’t change anything.
Urban, T. (2014, June 13). Taming the Mammoth: Why You Should Stop Caring What Other People Think. Retrieved from http://waitbutwhy.com/2014/06/taming-mammoth-let-peoples-opinions-run-life.html
The Teen Years
Anyone who knows 9 to 23-year-olds knows that they tend to detract more value from the world than they add, but as you can see on this graph, the teen years, and especially ages 12 to 16, are a full train wreck.
Urban, T. (2014, December 23). The Teen Years: 9 Cringe-Inducing Realizations. Retrieved from http://waitbutwhy.com/2014/12/the-teen-years-9-cringe-inducing-realizations.html
On a day-to-day level, one of the greatest challenges facing most humans is the quest to avoid living in an unconscious fog—this fog is where you are when you make big life decisions for small-minded reasons, when you short-sightedly side-step your own integrity, when you continually prioritize the wrong things over the right things, settle for mediocrity out of fear, or waste huge amounts of your precious time procrastinating.
Urban, T. (2014, October 10). How Religion Got in the Way. Retrieved from http://waitbutwhy.com/2014/10/how-religion-got-in-the-way.html
Smallest Bit Upwards
There are no hard problems, only problems that are hard to a certain level of intelligence. Move the smallest bit upwards [in level of intelligence], and some problems will suddenly move from “impossible” to “obvious.” Move a substantial degree upwards, and all of them will become obvious.
Quote from Eliezer S. Yudkowsky appearing in Chapter Two. Kurzweil, R. (2005). The Singularity Is Near: When Humans Transcend Biology (1st ed.). The Viking Press.
Paul Harvey, a University of New Hampshire professor and GYPSY expert, has researched this, finding that Gen Y has “unrealistic expectations and a strong resistance toward accepting negative feedback,” and “an inflated view of oneself.” He says that “a great source of frustration for people with a strong sense of entitlement is unmet expectations. They often feel entitled to a level of respect and rewards that aren’t in line with their actual ability and effort levels, and so they might not get the level of respect and rewards they are expecting.”
Urban, T. (2013, September 9). Why Generation Y Yuppies Are Unhappy. Retrieved from http://waitbutwhy.com/2013/09/why-generation-y-yuppies-are-unhappy.html
You’re then asked for your ID by someone who may not have been the biggest dick in your high school—but he was the biggest dick in someone’s high school.
Urban, T. (2014, May 27). Why You Secretly Hate Cool Bars. Retrieved from http://waitbutwhy.com/2014/05/secretly-hate-bars.html
No Middle Finger Button
Our friend Daniel’s post was quite a feat—in one simple paragraph, he sliced through my soul, accomplishing nearly every terrible status type and motivation discussed above. The thing is, though, that if you looked right below his post, all you saw were likes and a couple friendly comments.
And that’s why insufferable Facebook behavior will never go away—there’s no dislike button or eye-roll button or middle finger button on Facebook, and it’s bad form to be too much of a dick in the comments below a status. So annoying statuses are just positively reinforced, and people remain un-self-aware that they regularly bring down the quality of everyone else’s life.
Urban, T. (2013, July 8). 7 Ways to Be Insufferable on Facebook. Retrieved from http://waitbutwhy.com/2013/07/7-ways-to-be-insufferable-on-facebook.html
You think a piece of shit feels popular because it’s surrounded by flies?
Max Payne. Dir. Sam Lake. Remedy Entertainment, 2001. Video Game.